Escaping Abuse/Homelessness

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Hey! I’m Stone, a 22 year old nonbinary mentally ill and neurodivergent trans survival sw’er. The short version is I'm raising funds to escape an abusive and transphobic living situation. 

The long story is this: the past year has thrown many punches, including; being kicked out twice (first time being non-monogamous, second for being trans), living with an abusive transman for like 6 months, and having to live at my dads and brothers, who are also transphobic and misgender and deadname me daily. My dad has screamed and threatened my life before and has threatened to kick me out for not bending to his whim. I have audio and video recordings of some interactions I will attach. I don’t feel safe or comfortable at my father’s so I’ve been couch surfing. 

Also my partner Ian, (who had been really keeping me afloat through all the bouts of homelessness and my other partner raping me) died and we were a bit estranged right before they died - they got raped by my abusive transmasc ex and had told me it was a drunken mistake until a week before they died when they finally came to terms with it. We had been dealing with healing, getting past that and making sure we didn’t develop any toxic codependency. Since my toxic abusive relationship with the mono transmasc ex, I had embraced relationship anarchy and was against using labels because I thought it would restrict me like my abuser did. I think my resistance to labels hurt Ian too. The guilt gnaws at me, Ian deserved so much better from life and I love and miss them so much. I can’t really stand to be in Michigan anymore since losing them. They made me fall in love with Detroit with how passionate they were about their city but now I feel stuck here.

 Because of all this recent trauma/experiences, and because I don’t have a stable, safe place to live, my goal is to get a van and put a bed in it and be in a safe and stable environment of my own. I haven’t been able to work much since Ian’s death, I’ve just been trying not to kill myself which has been really hard. On top of all that I had a new partner I just started connecting with shortly before Ian passed that raped me and processing the rape was the last time Ian and I hung out, we never got to really get closure on my abuser raping them and our struggles around that and I still fear deep down they thought I hated them because I needed space. It’s been really wild and the ex that raped me left in the middle of the night after supporting me through Ian’s wake where I passed out Narcan with the help of Michigan Harm Reduction. It’s got me messed up on top of grief, and abuser drama, on top of all this, a social group that had been a safe place for me to explore and grow recently did some ableist things, and when I tried to call this out, I was shunned from the group. 

I know I could’ve worded this all better. in addition to my pictures/recordings below you can contact me to expand on my situation. My brain isn’t quite working right lately, I haven’t taken my prozac or ADD meds in over a week and haven’t accessed my items at my fathers in over a week because I fear hostility and want to avoid going over there alone. I also fear they’d evict me and just throw all my shit out. If you know my family please don’t show them this, I would like to not lose all my material possessions that aren’t in my car. 

My brain is all scrambled but; this year has been hell. I’m fortunate that I found a small group of friends lately that have housed and fed me while I try to get self sufficient, but I really don’t want to burden them anymore. I want a small space to be safe and to call my own and be stable and I think it’s best achieved by putting a bed in a van and traveling. I would really appreciate any amount you can give to help me find/buy a place to live without fear.

(If you’ve seen this before it’s because I use to have one running on GFM until I learned about this fee-free platform, and because my brother is watching my GFM like a hawk and keeps threatening me with empty threats of taking me to court. I’ve lost out on $70 of donations due to GFM’s take. I thought there was no such thing as fee free fundraising. I can also accept donations through Venmo and Cashapp. This platform doesn’t take anything though so there’s no real need to use the other services unless you don’t trust this platform or it’s payment methods)